I know what you're thinking. This is going to be a post all about how great my Mothers Day was, and how spoiled I am by my darling husband and adorable children, and that I had the most incredible day ever.
I'm having a hard time with Mothers Day lately. When did a holiday about Mothers become so political?
I know so many people who want so desperately to be a mother, and yet they can't, for reasons out of their control. So how cruel is it to have a holiday that is focused completely on motherhood to remind these women that their dreams are unattainable, and make them feel like a lesser woman for their lack of progeny?
Or, say, the stepmother situation. She's not a "real" mom, so Mothers Day becomes this day where she hopes that she is getting what all the "real" moms are, and if it seems to fall short, she feels like her stepchildren don't love her. No pressure on the stepchildren, or anything.
And even when we become mothers, we feel like Mothers Day is the day everyone talks about how wonderful and perfect mothers are, and we don't quite measure up. It's a day to feel like a Bad Mom.
Or perhaps you feel like a good Mom who might deserve a day off, a day of pampering and general relaxation. Only to find that kids still need their moms, even on Mothers Day.
I mean, really. It seems like nobody is happy.
I love my mother. I am so grateful for all she has done for me, and continues to do for me. She is always willing to help me whenever I need it. And I feel like it's appropriate to honor her. But for some reason, I don't want to be honored myself. And, perhaps more to the point, I feel like this is a holiday about trying to avoid making people feel bad, to make all women feel loved and valued, but in the end they feel bad anyway. You can't win. Does anyone else feel this way? Or is it just me?
In case you were wondering, I did have a nice Mothers Day. It was low key. Most of the day was just like any other Sunday. Clark took care of dinner. I played with the kids. I expected very little, and my expectations were happily exceeded. So I guess I can't say "nobody is happy," because I seem to have struck a happy balance this year. But this is the first year in a quite some time that I can say that.
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